I would recommend Andy Stanley’s “Enemies of the Heart: Breaking Free from the Four Emotions that Control You” (previously released as “It Came from Within”). I was fortunate enough to be provided two copies in a special re-release directly from the publisher for review purposes (I already gave the other copy to my lead pastor). You can purchase a paperback copy for under $11 at Amazon.com (http://www.amazon.com/Enemies-Heart-Breaking-Emotions-Control/dp/1601421451/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1320471588&sr=8-1) or directly from the publisher at http://waterbrookmultnomah.com/catalog.php?isbn=9781601421456.
Stanley detects and defines the greatest dangers to our hearts:
* Guilt: I owe you
* Anger: You owe me
* Greed: I owe me
* Jealousy: God owes me
His answer to the struggle? Respond with confession, forgiveness, generosity, and celebration.
The chapters that I most wrestled with were the ones dealing with jealousy. Stanley writes, “Why do we have so much? A consumer-driven culture keeps us laser-focused on what we don’t have, and focusing on what we don’t have leaves our hearts vulnerable to greed” (147). He goes on to suggest, “When we don’t have enough, we wonder why. Why not wonder when we have more than enough? (148). Stanley teaches, “Why do I have more time and resources than I actually need? (152).
Too many of us resemble the man who said of himself, “You have plenty of grain laid up for many years. Take life easy; eat, drink, and be merry” (Luke 12:19, NIV).
Stanley suggests, “If you’re consuming and saving to the point that there’s little or nothing to give, you’re greedy” (153). Instead, ask yourself, “Who can I help? What kingdom endeavor can I fund?” (155). How do we do this? Be a percentage giver. Give away a portion of everything you take in and increase that giving percentage annually. But also be sure to be a spontaneous giver. See the need and fill the need.
Official Author Biography: Andy Stanley is a pastor, communicator, author, and the founder of North Point Ministries, Inc. Since its inception in 1995, North Point Ministries has grown from one campus to five in the Atlanta area and has helped plant over thirty strategic partner churches globally. Each Sunday, more than twenty-five thousand people attend worship services at one of North Point Ministries’ five campuses. Andy’s books include Enemies of the Heart, The Next Generation Leader, How Good is Good Enough? and many more. He lives in Alpharetta, Georgia, with his wife, Sandra, and their children.
Official Book Description: Break free from the destructive power of guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy. Divorce. Job loss. Estrangement from family members. Broken friendships. The difficult circumstances you are dealing with today are likely being fed by one of four emotional forces that compels you to act in undesirable ways, sometimes even against your will. Andy Stanley explores each of these destructive forces—guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy—and how they infiltrate your life and damage your relationships. He says that, left unchallenged they have the power to destroy your home, your career, and your friendships. In Enemies of the Heart, Andy offers practical, biblical direction to help you fight back, to take charge of those feelings that mysteriously control you, and to restore your broken relationships. Includes a six-week discussion guide—a valuable resource for small groups! Previously released as It Came from Within